I think I take thing too personally

I was thinking the other day, as much as I try to have a sense of humour, I think I take things too personally. I tend to overreact. A lot. This usually ends up leaving me in not so pleasant situations. I've had incidents where I've stopped talking to people because of some stupid remark. Seriously, how could they NOT know their mean remarks were going to offend someone?

I've been bearing a lot of bullshit from a male friend in recent past. He loves to call me Dumbo. Anything which goes wrong, and pat the remark comes

"Oh, it was expected out of you. You're a dumb girl after all".

How chauvinistic!!!

I've been bearing all this, though my threshold to take bullshit is really low. Especially from guys.

And I've also had friends cross the line big time. Judging me and brandishing me publicly when they virtually don't know even an iota about me. Poking their snoopy nose into my personal matters, which have apparently got nothing to do with them. Even remotely. And then, trying to make me feel naked, guilty or plain wrong. There was an acquaintance who recently remarked, "Oh prianca, you can never adjust to struggle. You are too spoilt for luxury". Oh really? It seemed as if she had done an entire ph.d on my lifestyle. The irony is she was JUST a remote acquaintance. I'm sorry, that's just wrong. I may not say anything to them at that moment. But then, I'm also not saying anything to them now.
Why do people like crossing lines and testing our patience?

The most effective answer to an insult is silence ~ Author unknown

G Talk

There's something about girly talks that I simply don't like at all. I don't participate in them, or at least try not to. Come together a bunch of close female friends and one thing which is inevitable is GOSSIP.
What is it about talking baselessly about other people, with great interest? I have often found myself in simliar situations. I keep sitting there, listen to everyone and leave. My friends think I am either not interested in their animated conversations (which i am so not) or do not have anything interesting to contribute.
Either ways, it's not a very positive sign as far as my so-called repo in front of my friends is concerned.

So what did I do today? I found myself at the hotbed of one such malicious rumour about a friend, where I knew the whole truth already!!!
Believe me when I say that sitting there and trying to listen to those bits of baseless allegations and assumptions (gossip, i mean) was quite a task. I was tempted quite a number of times to ask my friends to stop and tell them the real scene (which is not so pleasant either). And probably that's why I didnt want to tell them the unpleasant facts. bleh. Not quite a thing that I should be proud of........

It's nothing major though. Because I know at the end of the day, our friend whose love life was being gossiped about, isn't a saint either. And doesnt care. neither for me,, nor for other friends or the gossips being circulated about her.

Even if you simply listen to gossip, you are participating in it..............


If you wouldn't write it and sign it, don't say it. ~ Earl Wilson

F.R.I.E.N.D.S

While walking past a hoarding in underground metro the other day, I came across this advertisement for AOL chat groups. It said: People come and go, Friends stay.
As always, i was in a hurry. And i moved on. But this punch line remained there buzzing in my mind for a few days.

What is it about friends which is so overrated?
You have an almost different set of friends when you are in school. Get new friends if you happen to change school. Come graduation and you have a new lot of friends. Same happens with your post-grad or office environment when you move further ahead in life.
One would argue that this is what friends are all about. Friends make a sincere effort to stay in touch.

I wont say that I do not agree with this argument. Its true, friends are people who really care to stay in touch, to be there for you when you need it the most. They do not change even if they happen to meet you after a considerable period of time. The warmth is still there.

Then, why is it that some people turn a cold shoulder to you as soon as you move out of the institution which brought you together? It could be your school, dance classes, office et al. Once you move out of that place, they transform from being really good friends to mere acquaintances who would only give a hesistant, acknowledging smile if they happen to see you at some public place. Whatever happened to the warmth and all? At most, you guys would exchange greetings on social networking sites, plan to meet up once in a while but then, that's about it.
Such friends end up being a part of your social life. People whom you keep bumping into parties, invite them to parties but people who do not mean the world to you. Neither do you to them.
Are these friends?

I strongly believe that friends is a highly misused word. Just because I happen to attend the same academic batch as fifty other students or happen to travel together everyday in a cab doesnt qualify them to be my FRIENDS.
I prefer to call them acquaintances. My so-called friends are often hurt when I tell this to them bluntly. Yes, its true that they happen to know a lot about me. But that's because I am spending them a large amount of my time with them, for my office/college purpose.

And no, I am not actually in love with the idea of being called rude. There are people who claim to be your friends. Then for any reason, big or small, they fight with you, have arguments, insult you and move away. Tada. Friendship broken. Love's Labour lost.
And you called them Friends?
blah. didnt that Ad said "FRIENDS STAY".
yes, Friends stay. They apologise and make up. Learn to accept each other for what they are. And its not easy to find such people. So, please, do not condemn me if I refuse to call every Tom, Dick and Harry my F.R.I.E.N.D.


I read this somewhere and I guess it is applicable for every one of us. We tend to mentally divide our large number of friends into four categories and treat them accordingly. They are:

• Best of friends.
  
• Good friends
  
• Friends with benefits
  
• Just friends