I think I take thing too personally

I was thinking the other day, as much as I try to have a sense of humour, I think I take things too personally. I tend to overreact. A lot. This usually ends up leaving me in not so pleasant situations. I've had incidents where I've stopped talking to people because of some stupid remark. Seriously, how could they NOT know their mean remarks were going to offend someone?

I've been bearing a lot of bullshit from a male friend in recent past. He loves to call me Dumbo. Anything which goes wrong, and pat the remark comes

"Oh, it was expected out of you. You're a dumb girl after all".

How chauvinistic!!!

I've been bearing all this, though my threshold to take bullshit is really low. Especially from guys.

And I've also had friends cross the line big time. Judging me and brandishing me publicly when they virtually don't know even an iota about me. Poking their snoopy nose into my personal matters, which have apparently got nothing to do with them. Even remotely. And then, trying to make me feel naked, guilty or plain wrong. There was an acquaintance who recently remarked, "Oh prianca, you can never adjust to struggle. You are too spoilt for luxury". Oh really? It seemed as if she had done an entire ph.d on my lifestyle. The irony is she was JUST a remote acquaintance. I'm sorry, that's just wrong. I may not say anything to them at that moment. But then, I'm also not saying anything to them now.
Why do people like crossing lines and testing our patience?

The most effective answer to an insult is silence ~ Author unknown

7 comments:

harshabadbad | January 5, 2009 at 11:51 PM

well, People plant their foot on flowers and not on the rocks, n still those flowers give out is fragrance!

kunal | January 6, 2009 at 5:23 PM

i used to get irritatingly happy whenever i had good time of whenever good things happened to me, but for the bads things i reated to things like u did.

Now i react very mildly to happy news though i enjoy them. it doesn't get abnoxious like earlier. So u know now part which reated for bad things has also adjusted to milder irritation. Now i remain irritated for say... never

Rahul | January 6, 2009 at 6:29 PM

I felt like you have written abt my feelings..I was like this a few years back too. But now its like a small swing of the mood pendulum even in extreme happiness or extreme sadness or extreme anger..Feels nice.. :)

Ashish | January 8, 2009 at 8:45 AM

"The most effective answer to an insult is silence"
you should stick to this rule...
BTW I like ur blog template :)

Prianca | January 11, 2009 at 3:44 PM

@harshababdbad
thank you so much. for stoppin by and d morale boosting comment.
blog rolled you. ;)

@ kunal
that's
so good on your part. i just hope i can learn d same sense of preservarance and restraint.
cheers mate

@ rahul
thank you rahul

@ ashish
hi, thank you for d compliment. nd yes, m trying to stick to this rule

Abhinav | January 17, 2009 at 10:17 PM

I have a different opinion on insults..

if the opposite person is sane enough to be replied, one should reply to him/her in strongest possible way...

Prianca | January 17, 2009 at 10:29 PM

@ abhinav
yup, point
But only if d person is SANE enuff
most of d ppl who act bitchy or cross their limits, are (asteriks) in my opinion.
bt point appreciated mate.
thanx